My mom asked me if I wanted to help spread my granddad’s ashes today and I just couldn’t. Doesn’t she get cremation is TRIGGERING FOR ME!! I know she was upset when I flat out refuse to have anything to do with it, but that’s MY RIGHT as a VICTIM! She needs to learn to check her living privilege, and learn to respect my identity before she can bring up something as TRIVIAL as MANNERS. Why should I respect someone who ignores my special needs?!?!
And then it got… so much worse. She said I needed to RESPECT THE DEAD! SHE DOESN’T GET TO DEFINE THAT! THE LIVING OPPRESSORS CAN’T UNDERSTAND RESPECTING THE DEAD, ONLY THE DEAD CAN!!!! The living are inherently prejudiced against the dead, ALL OF THEM! ONLY THE PERSPECTIVE OF A DEAD PERSON, ME, IS IMPORTANT! God, some days it just hurts how obvious the oppression of transdead people is.